Is your husband on HRT as well? i rejected it, because I have become detached, unhappy and frustrated. I feel I am too old to move on by myself, most everything in our relationship is good, but sex is very bad. Were your one-stop destination for unraveling the mystery that is love. Leah 09. Seriously? Resentment in the marriage eventually leads to conflict and arguments. We feel just as frustrated that our actions are not recognized by our women. Knowing I will never be wanted again in that way by her or any woman corrodes my spirit a little more each day. While its true that marriage isnt for everyone, it certainly isnt worthless. She started the menopause change about 3 years ago, however sex prior to that was maybe every few months for probably 7 years. Too bad; I truly live him but I dont need the stress. You say you dont know if youre doing foreplay right. She like others doesnt want intimacy or sex, which I could deal with for the most part but then she makes remarks about me masturbating or watching porn. What shallow view of the problem. But keeping an open dialogue about your mutual wants and desires can, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4199300/, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4555290/, https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jmft.12282, http://nationalmarriageproject.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/NMP-DateNight.pdf, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2707786/, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3807599/. Ive been married three times and my third wife is the number one compared to the first three. If your penis does not work, attempt to fix it. Absolute rubbish! Same issue here. She is just plain not sexually attracted to me. I did some self searching and recognized that the marriage had been one of convenience and the love wasnt there for me. On the other hand, another reason your wife is never in the mood may be related to menopause. Because of its addictive nature, it rewires the brain by desensitizing you. I mean how do you do that if your married? I actually envy those that are single. The precursor for any affair is emotional intimacy, says Gopa. With a lot of talk and communication, we have made peace with our sex life. My NEW husband gets a hard on, loves me to give him oral sex but is not sexually attracted to me at all. He was several yrs younger than me, Ive Never been married & Ive had a half dozen BFs or so. Guys need intimacy too as well as sex and we love our spouses too. Really its happening with many couples as the year goes and children born the interest goes down. In good times, sex it a wonderful way to give and receive love. I found a wonderful woman gynecologist, and she put me on low dose hormone therapy. Her work has been featured at The Cut, Vice, Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and elsewhere. Weekly turned into Monthly then every 3 or 4 months question about sex. And pressure is a total libido killer that can set off a cycle of sexual avoidance, according to AASECT-certified sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, M.A.
