I know what youre going through. I do not want to feel this pain ever again. I have no support. I have stayed very close to his family (I only have my mother as immediate family) and so now and again I have to have contact with him. There are tactics you can use the get passed the pain, I promise. Your piece really spoke to me. He took the get out of parenting free card. feelings of . I too get sad in these all too often moments Then I feel the empty space profoundly not for a man I do not miss but where a family history of four ought to be. Our youngest daughters future events such as marriage, graduations, etc., that we now have to be a part of as separate families, instead of being proud together and sharing that moment with each other, Im sitting alone glaring at my ex, reliving the whole scene of him walking out on me with a younger model going on vacations and living it up while I am barely getting 3 hours sleep a night. The sadness and hurt came subtly and hovered over me. We have 2 grown children now1 doing very well, the other still trying to find his way. By this time you will have known the extent that you contributed towards ending your previous marriage and see the solution to avoid any more hurts in a second marriage. Seeking revenge. The residual anger,. Try to find joy in the fact that you have those feelings for her instead of focusing on the pain of losing her. Yet in only 10 percent of the couples do both former spouses. Oh, theres likely nothing so special about my story except perhaps how long it raged. Some of the common signs of depression are mentioned in an article by psy.com. A fractured. Dead dreams live inside me. My divorce happened suddenly and unexpectedly (to me) 12 years ago after 26 years of marriage. An example is engaging in mind teasing activities, for instance going back to school for your masters on a part-time basis. Only now I realise all that I feel, others feel too. "acceptedAnswer": { I wish all who have experienced this, the best of strength and happiness. I googled this lingering pain. Add in a young child, and the other spouse refusing to work on things, rather, cut bait and get out immediately with no reason. But, I was wrong. Its a terrible gnawing that can be pushed to the far back but doesnt seem to go away. Sam, have you considered going to therapy to work through your pain? I devoted my whole life to him and our 2 adult kids who blame me for everything and no longer speak with me but have welcome the child bride with open arms. The Pain of Divorce 10 Years Later - Mental Itch Most days I only want to lay around and play videogames. But the pain of all of it never really went away.
